A disgruntled girlfriend is turning to Reddit for advice after learning that her boyfriend might drop out of law school to pursue his passion, which would likely leave him penniless.
On August 4, the 22-year-old woman, posting under the username RAThrowaway12789, explained her situation with her 23-year-old boyfriend in the r/relationships subreddit.
‘How do I convince him this is the worst idea ever?’
In the post, which was removed by moderators for unknown reasons, RAThrowaway12789 said that her boyfriend, who is currently in law school, wants to drop out to “be a full-time podcaster.”
“At first it was just a hobby,” she wrote. “My boyfriend is a big podcast nerd so it was really nice to see him do something he liked so much. But then he started getting more and more invested, and stopped watching his remote classes/studying to dedicate his full time to his podcast.”
At this point, RAThrowaway12789’s boyfriend is “seriously considering dropping out of law school” since he would “‘rather do what he loves'” — AKA podcasting. The problem? According to RAThrowaway12789, his podcast is only two months old and it has “barely 30 listeners.”
On top of that, she wrote, her boyfriend’s parents (who financially support the couple) are “threatening to cut [them] off” if he decides to drop out of school. Since RAThrowaway12789 is currently an intern in a “big expensive city,” she says she can’t afford to support herself right now.
“How do I convince him this is the worst idea ever?” RAThrowaway12789 asked the Reddit community. “I’ve tried reasoning and explaining but he really believes they’re gonna break through. They’re good, but it’s just not easy to make a living out of these things.”
‘The grass isn’t always greener on the other side’
In the comments, many Reddit users offered sound advice about how RAThrowaway12789’s boyfriend could continue growing his podcast while still pursing a law career.
“Get him to talk to other podcast hosts,” one person suggested. “Podcasters generally don’t give up their main source of income for a 2 month old podcast. You telling him it’s ridiculous is one thing, but hearing it from a ‘professional’ might have more impact.”
“It’s fine to start as a hobby. But it’s extremely difficult to make [podcasting] into a living,” another user added. “You’d have to be lucky, have side jobs, and work for years. The career he’s chosen in law isn’t a bad one – it could pave the way to work in law themed podcasts for a larger company.”
Some people even shared their own failed business experiences as cautionary tales.
“When I started my first business I wanted to quit my day job and pursue it full time — I just knew I was going to make it. My husband convinced me not to, and you know what? That business tanked,” one person explained. “If he doesn’t want to finish law school he should consider getting a job to hold him over and help contribute to bills. The grass isn’t always greener on the other side — sometimes it’s photoshopped.”
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