Man ‘loses it’ over fiancée’s secret financial decision: ‘She had no right’

A man is furious at his current fiancée for selling his late fiancée’s engagement ring. 

His former fiancée died in 2016 before they got married and he kept their engagement rings as tokens. Now his new fiancée has sold the rings without his permission. He consulted Reddit’s “Am I the A******” forum to see if his feelings were justified. 

“I lost my late fiancée to a severe infection (sepsis) in 2016,” he wrote. “I proposed to her when she was sick and we were planning getting married four months after [the] proposal. But she passed away and it was unexpected because her health was getting better. After being on life support for ten hours, she died on March 7, 2016, at 1 p.m. and was put to rest with her funeral on Saturday. This was so hard for me to deal with and I had a hard time coping. The pain was unbearable there was literally no place to just hide and forget about what happened. It’s been four years, I’m moving on now.” 

He and his current fiancee have been together for 16 months now. 

“I kept my and my late fiancée’s engagement rings and let her family keep most of her belongings before I moved,” he said. “I have the rings along with a few photos, and stuff we bought together. My fiancée noticed the rings and said that I was weird for still keeping engagement rings. I don’t know why she’d think that it’s not like I wear my past engagement ring on my finger or anything. But she seemed uncomfortable that I was keeping them as mementos. I [have] been struggling with money lately and she brought up selling those rings a couple of times but I just told her I’d work something out since she’d get sensitive if I told her they’re so important to me, she’d react to that.” 

Then his late fiancée’s rings went missing. 

“She [new fiancée] told me she sold them on Facebook for X amount of money and bought important stuff for the apartment to help with a thing or two,” he continued. “I lost it, I told her she had no right to take personal stuff and sell them online for her convenience and thinking she was helping. She lashed out saying that she didn’t expect me to blow up like that and tried to justify her behavior by saying that I clearly still have feelings for my late fiancée and asked why would I still keep my late fiancée’s engagement ring when I already have a fiancée. I told her that she would never understand how much she hurt me and disrespected me by doing this.” 

Reddit felt the new fiancée was exhibiting quite a few red flags. 

“This would be a deal-breaker for me,” one user commented

“She stole something that was incredibly personally meaningful to you. I’d file a police report and break up with her,” another wrote

“Leave her. She isn’t mature enough to be married,” someone said

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