Woman faces backlash over ‘controlling’ rules for her husband’s phone usage: ‘What is the problem?’

A woman is furious with her husband because he kept her photo on his phone

She went on Reddit’s “Am I the A******? (AITA)” forum for help. She discovered that her husband had saved her photo with her name in his contact list. He didn’t seem to think it was a big deal. But she demanded that he delete the photo. 

“My husband bought a new phone last week,” she wrote. “Before that, he used to have one of those old phones that didn’t have many features. I was happy for him and helped him learn how to use some features he’s never seen before.” 

“Yesterday morning, I couldn’t find my phone before I went to work. I woke him up to ask him to call me so I could find it, but he handed me his phone and told me to do it myself. I took his phone, opened the call log and searched for my contact number. I saw that he had a picture of me (my face) for my contact photo. I was [so] mad, I woke him up again to ask why he did it.”

“He said it was normal, and he did it with his family and friends even,” she said. “I told him I didn’t give him permission, and he should’ve asked if I was comfortable with having my picture there. He said I have a ton of pictures of him in my phone. But I keep them in a hidden app so no one sees them, and this way, I’m protecting his privacy. Besides that, I got his permission for every single picture before saving them.”

“I demanded he remove it, but he fought back and said I’m being bossy and controlling. I told him my face was in there. He again said it wasn’t a huge deal and that I should chill. I snapped and said I wasn’t going to let him convince me to be okay with my privacy being violated. He said, “GTFO, it’s not like I put nudes in there,” but still. We fought some more, and he removed the picture, then kept pouting and venting about how I keep trying to dictate how he lives and what he does and said it’s become too much.”

Redditors felt the poster overreacted. 

“What is the problem? Your husband is right. You are bossy and controlling,” someone commented

“Is this really the hill you want to die on?” another said

“To each their own, but your reaction was out of line,” a person wrote. 

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