A husband and wife can’t agree on how to discipline their “lazy and irresponsible” adult son.
The husband asked Reddit’s “Am I the A******” for help. His 23-year-old son Chris refuses to help around the house and drives up the expenses. But when the father tried to set up house rules, his wife and Chris ganged up on him.
“My son Chris just graduated college,” he said. “He used to live hours away from me and his mom but recently moved back in with us. He could no longer afford rent. He said it was temporary, but he’s been here for four months. That’s not what bothers me but the fact that he adds to our expenses and hasn’t started working and doesn’t help in any capacity. I sat with Chris and gave him a timeline as to when he’s expected to either start working and help around the house or move out. Till then, I gave him rules that he needed to follow till further notice.”
The rules were that he had to do basic tasks like laundry and dishes, he could no longer complain when his parents cooked meals he didn’t want, and he couldn’t use Wi-Fi for more than six hours, like his sister. Lastly, he had to pay for his own internet subscriptions, like Netflix and YouTube.
“This was it for Chris. He blew up, complaining about how ridiculous and unfair my rules were and reminded me he’s not a child anymore,” he explained. “I told him, child or not, as long as he lives under my roof, then he’s expected to follow the owner’s rules. He got frustrated and yelled ‘mom’ to come to his rescue. He got her involved and asked her to talk some sense into me. My wife argued with me, and I asked her if she was okay with Chris recklessly increasing our bills and spending so much of our money on lavish stuff while doing nothing in return. She blew up, telling me to get rid of these unreasonable rules and that I should be ashamed of myself for treating my own son as an unwanted guest. I refused and told her she was enabling his unacceptable behavior and that Chris still has a chance to turn his situation around if he doesn’t like it. Plus, what does this teach our daughter? That it’s okay to be a lazy and irresponsible adult.”
“He’s 23 and mommy still does his laundry?” a user said.
“Your wife is doing him no favors by not holding him accountable,” another wrote.
“You’re not making unreasonable demands,” someone commented.
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