He asked Reddit’s “Am I the A******? (AITA)” forum for advice. He always promised to pay for his daughter’s wedding. But when she insisted that he couldn’t bring his husband or child because her in-laws were conservative, the father decided to keep his money instead.
“My daughter is getting married,” he explained. “Since she was a little girl, I promised to pay for her wedding, but something happened two days ago that made me change my mind. My ex-wife and I had our daughter at a very young age. After six years of marriage, I could find myself and come out to my wife. She understood, and we had a very amicable divorce and split custody.
“She is planning her wedding (and let me know a few things she wanted for her special day): Since their future in-laws are so conservative and religious, my husband is not allowed to attend the wedding; I said: OK, it’s your day. My 2-year-old son can’t attend, either. I can’t talk about my ‘lifestyle’ because she doesn’t want to make her in-laws uncomfortable.”
He felt her wedding rules were too prejudiced against him and his family.
“Therefore, I told her that if her in-laws are so important, they should pay for the wedding,” he wrote. “She got mad at me and called me a child and said that if I keep on with this ‘attitude,’ she’ll ask her father-in-law to walk her down the aisle. Then I said: ‘Fin. If my family isn’t welcomed and I’m excluded, I’m not paying for the wedding.’
“She was furious and said I was being selfish, picking favorites, and not thinking about her at all. She complains that they can’t afford the wedding since they are both too young, and [she] reminded me it was a promise I made. Everyone, including her mom, is calling me selfish. So, AITA here?”
Redditors thought the daughter was completely in the wrong.
“She is being ridiculous and absolutely horrible to you,” a person said.
“Her in-laws are homophobic, and she is enabling them,” another wrote.
“She wants you to pay for her wedding but doesn’t respect your marriage,” someone added.
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