‘RHOM’ star Alexia Echevarria reflects on her wild life as she reveals plans to write a book

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Alexia Echevarria knows that her life has been like a movie, with twists and turns that would throw anyone for a loop, but she’s proud not only of the fact that she’s gotten through it all, but also of the fact that she’s been able to share it with the world.

The original Real Housewives of Miami star has learned to take lessons from all that life has thrown at her and credits her faith with helping her overcome. The just-wrapped fourth season of the Peacock hit saw her confronting her late ex-husband’s male lover at the beginning of the season and losing her mother to COVID-19 on the eve of her wedding in the finale. It was an emotional rollercoaster that she’s still processing.

“It’s really difficult to put your life out there,” Echevarria told In The Know. “In life, when you’re not a public person, you go through lessons, but they’re not public. When you’re a public person, your lessons are a lot harder, especially when they have to do with your family and your personal life.”

The mother of two appeared on the most recent episode of In The Know’s pop-culture interview series, We Should Talk, where she opened up about her plans to release a book about her life experiences, reflected on some of the biggest obstacles she has faced and divulged some details about her biggest feud of RHOM Season 4.

Listen to Real Housewives of Miami star Alexia Echevarria’s full episode of We Should Talk here, and keep reading for highlights from the interview:

On not being able to watch the emotional Season 4 finale: The truth is that I haven’t watched the last episode. I couldn’t watch it. That day, with people writing me things, I just couldn’t. I was super-depressed, and I was in Aspen, and it was a really tough day for me. I know they all got together, and I’m grateful to them. I know it was beautiful. … At the end, you see that it’s just an exceptional group of women that all have great hearts. We’re able to overcome all of these things and come together when we have to come together, which is really real life. Sometimes you have to put your differences aside. I don’t get families that have differences of opinion and stuff like that, then there’s a crisis or moment when everybody needs to come together and they don’t. So, we proved that we can come together and love each other and support each other.

On almost losing her son, Frankie, in a car crash nearly a decade ago: I remember him being in the bed in the hospital and me just lying down with him. I would not leave for months and months. I didn’t even go out anywhere, even to get fresh air outside. The only time I would leave would be to go to church. … He was in a coma and I was in the bed and I was talking to him the whole time, like, “I know he’s listening to me.” Even though I had no response, I kept on. Some of the doctors would say, “I don’t know what you’re doing; he’s not listening.” I was like, “Let me do what I need to do.” I was always talking to him so that he knew I was there. It’s this bond and connection that you don’t know. I never left his side! As a mother, when you almost lose a son, it’s always there. He’s always on my mind. … I established that bond when he was lying in that bed and he was in a coma. I never gave up. I continued to speak to him, to hug him, to love him as if he was alive. I’m not gonna lie, sometimes I would look put the window in the hospital and I wanted to jump out of the window. I was like, “What is this? Give me strength, God, so I can do this!” And I did.

On her tiff with Nicole Martin on Season 4 of RHOM: You could tell that Andy wasn’t really having it — he didn’t really care, and he thought it was stupid. I agree with him, and he’s the moderator, so I’m like, “You don’t want to talk about it? I’m good. I don’t want to talk about it either!” But, pretty much, I thought it was really immature of Nicole to deflect her situation with Marysol, saying certain things about Larsa and Lisa and trying to start a fight between us. That’s an old trick, and Marysol and I have such a great bond, and we’re such real, good friends that we’re not having it. We know what you’re doing. You’re not that smart, and we’re not going to go there. Let’s talk about whatever you said about Lisa and Larsa, because that’s the real conversation here. … All the new girls want to have a moment, you know what I mean? I knew any moment that she was going to want to have her moment, but I just didn’t think it was going to be with me. I brought her into the group!

On her plans to write a book about her life: Frankie’s accident, which really changed my life completely, was realy my biggest lesson in life. I started keeping a journal when I was going through Frankie’s recovery, and that helped me a lot. It helped me a lot to connect with God spiritually, and I kind of regained my faith. That was the first test that I’d had in so many years as far as faith goes, so I started keeping a journal with Frankie. After that, I realized that I had to recover Frankie; I had to recover Peter (because he was so affected by his brother’s accident), so I said, “I’ve always loved to write.” … I just started writing things down about my life and things that I had gone through. It was so healing, it was so therapeutic and I started sharing things on paper that I was never able to share with anybody. I said, “You know what? This is maybe something I should do!” And my friends have always told me that. … Before I wasn’t ready to talk about certain things, and there were a lot of things I was shamed about from my past, but when I started writing then I started being proud of them. I said, “Wow, you’re tough! You’re strong, and you’ve been through so much adversity and so many obstacles.”

Watch In The Know’s full interview with Alexia Echevarria below, and stream The Real Housewives of Miami on Peacock now:

If you enjoyed this interview, check out In The Know’s recent interview with fellow “Real Housewives of Miami” star Marysol Patton here!

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