She went on Reddit’s “Am I the A******” forum to see if she made the right move. The bride-to-be can’t stand her sister’s fiancé so she was horrified by her parent’s idea to resolve a scheduling issue: a double wedding.
“We only got engaged about 10 weeks ago and have plans for November 2021,” she explained. “My sister ‘Rosie’ and I have always had a complex relationship, but my bigger problem is her fiancé ‘Mick’ who I detest with my entire being. Mick is like a caricature of the phrase ‘toxic masculinity.’ One time my daughter painted my son and my fiancé’s nails and Mick called my son and fiancé ‘sissies’ because they had nail polish on. He’s also hit on me in the past and slut-shamed me.”
Meanwhile, the bride’s parents are paying for two-thirds of the wedding because they added an additional 40 guests to the couple’s initial 20.
“So far all we have arranged is a venue and it’s a good thing we did, too, because there’s only three venues in the area and November 2021 was the earliest date any of them had available,” she said. “Rosie and Mick got engaged last week. Rosie has looked for venues and the first available date is April 2022. Mum and dad told us today that we will now be having a double wedding. Everyone involved is aware of the issues we have with Mick.”
She refused to share the wedding, but her parents insisted that because they were paying for a big chunk, it was their call.
“I responded that they don’t get a say on who is getting married. They said I was being immature and should learn to share the spotlight and I said that my issue was seeing Mick standing next to my fiancé at the altar,” she wrote. “Then said that we would pay for the entire wedding ourselves and go back to our original guest list minus my parents, Mick and Rosie, then hung up.”
The bride planned to return her parents’ money and hold the wedding with only 20 guests like they originally planned.
“I definitely just snapped in the moment, but the idea of sharing my wedding with Mick gives me a visceral negative reaction,” she continued. “Since hanging up my fiancé says that he’s fine with this development, though he wasn’t expecting it, but he supports me. However, my parents and sister feel I overreacted.”
Reddit was on the bride’s side for this one.
“Your wedding, your day, your rules,” one user wrote.
“Uninviting them sounds like a good idea,” another commented.
“Even if you liked them, being told to share your wedding is pretty atrocious,” someone said.
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