An expectant father angered social media after storming out of the unborn baby’s reveal party upon learning the child’s gender.
The 33-year-old man, who already has a 5-year-old daughter, took to Reddit’s “Am I The A**hole” forum to seek advice after upsetting his 34-year-old wife and his in-laws with his outburst, during what was meant to be a special occasion.
“She’s been grouchy her whole pregnancy so her sister offered to plan her a gender reveal party,” the man began, more or less already on the wrong foot.
“The plan was that all the food and decorations would be blue or pink and in the end we’d get one of those special sparklers that would light up in either blue or pink to reveal the gender,” he continued. “We went to the doctor and got her to write the result in a folded piece of paper that we passed over to her sister without looking.”
Sounds pretty standard for a gender reveal party, right? Wrong.
Despite knowing exactly what to expect during the big day, the soon-to-be father of two lost his wits after learning the gender of his second born.
“So flash forward to the day of the party and the moment of truth comes and the sparkler turns out to be pink for a girl,” he wrote. “I don’t know what came over me but all I felt at that moment was very bitter disappointment. To be honest, all I was hoping for baby #2 is to be able to toss a ball around with him and coach little league. Or watch him go on Boy Scouts camping trips.”
“I know my daughter is only five, but I’ve already started to deal with the dramas of being a father of a girl and the thought of having to double up now on the neuroticism was harrowing,” the man continued. “My wife grabbed my arm as people were approaching us to say their congratulations and said I needed to look happier. At that moment I just snapped. I shook my head and walked out to my car ( we came separately) and drove to my sister’s (21F) house.”
Well, this didn’t sit too well with either the man’s wife or Reddit users, who called him out on his attitude toward “girls/women in general.”
“No one is stopping you from tossing a ball with your daughter, or from camping with them, or encouraging them to participate in sports,” one user wrote. “You are the one stopping them from this.”
“The misogyny sprinkled all throughout this post is astounding,” echoed another.
“My dad had four girls and I asked him one time if he wished he had any sons,” added a third. “He said absolutely not, he could play sports and share his interests with his daughters the same way he could with sons and that he wouldn’t change a thing. And it was true, and I’m so grateful my father raised us with that attitude.”
“It was a 50/50 chance,” leveled another. “Your reaction is now public and your child will hear about it at some point and she will feel like crap. You wanted a boy, fine.. but if you couldn’t deal with having a girl, you should not have had a public gender announcement. Or another kid, probably.”
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