Woman notices ‘huge red flag’ after trying to buy a house with her boyfriend: ‘Don’t let him bully you’

A woman doesn’t want to include her boyfriend’s name on the deed of her new home.

She explained the situation on Reddit’s “Am I the A******? (AITA)” forum. The Reddit poster earns significantly more than her boyfriend. When they decided to look for a house together, she decided to pay for all of the down payment and most of the ensuing bills and expenses. She felt it only made sense that she would be the only one on the deed, but he disagrees. 

“I and my boyfriend have been together for about four years,” she wrote. “We started living together two years ago in an apartment and it’s been great! I recently got a new job and make around $80k a year and have been wanting to get out of our apartment and into a house. My boyfriend on the other hand doesn’t have a very good work ethic and has had about eight different jobs in the four years we have been together, all making minimum wage. I brought up getting a house and he was totally on board with it so we started house hunting.”

“I have enough in my savings for a down payment and to cover all the closing costs but my boyfriend doesn’t have any savings and lives paycheck to paycheck. We currently split our rent 50/50 and he pays his bills (car payment, insurance, etc.) on his own and I pick up all the groceries, wifi, dog stuff. I’m totally fine with the fact I pick up more expenses since I make more than him and he’s never complained.” 

But when she told the boyfriend her conditions for purchasing the home, he became upset. 

“We finally found our dream house and are going to be signing the papers in a couple weeks,” she explained. “I mentioned to him that I would like to be the only name on the home since we are buying it with my savings and we aren’t married and don’t plan to be married anytime soon. He is now upset with me about it because it’s supposed to be ‘our house.’ 

“I’ve told him that it is OUR house but legally it will just be mine because I don’t want to put $400,000 on the line. He said that if it’s just going to be my house that he shouldn’t have to pay to live there. I disagree, it would be like paying rent anywhere else and when/if we get married we will change the agreement. He hasn’t talked to me for three days now and I really don’t think I’m in the wrong here.”

Reddit users thought the boyfriend was being ridiculous. 

“Honestly, the fact he’s given you the silent treatment for days is a huge red flag and is really inappropriate for an adult relationship,” a user wrote

“Don’t let him bully you. It’s your money,” someone added

“This man is trash. If it weren’t for you, where would he be?” another commented

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