This one is a doozy. One woman is wondering if she should take back an ex — who left her at the altar five years ago.
“The night before our wedding my fiancé called me to tell me he was ending our 3-year relationship because he didn’t want to get married. I was devastated but my family helped me get through,” she said. “We haven’t spoken for 5 years until he reached out to me three months ago.”
He gave the woman his side of things and told her he never wanted to get married so quickly and that he felt pressured from her extended family.
“He said they had been harassing him constantly to ‘legitimize’ our relationship. This is believable because that side of my family are weird and think dating is scandalous and you shouldn’t even look at a boy until your wedding night,” she wrote. “He said that on the night before our wedding he became so overwhelmed by the idea of being someone’s husband and at the thought of having to provide for a family he knew he had to call it off because he knew our marriage would’ve ended in resentment. He apologized and asked if we could be friends.”
She agreed to be friends and the two video-chatted during the lockdown. They even made plans to meet up in person, but then things took a strange turn.
“He asked me last week if I was willing to give him a second chance and things soured. I told him I need to think about it but I’ve been avoiding his calls and texts since,” she continued. “How can I figure out if he’s being genuine and doesn’t just want to mess around until he finds someone else? If this was you, would you give him a second chance?”
Reddit uses were not very supportive of her ex-fiancé.
“I don’t know if you could fully give yourself to him. I don’t think it’s fair to either of you to get back together. I have an ex-fiancé who pops in and out of my life, whenever he feels like it. Don’t. Do. It.” one user wrote.
“I personally could never consider giving someone a second chance who asked me to spend my life with them and then backed out the night before,” another said.
“Sis, you need to love yourself a little more. You’ve come so far. Do not go back into the same rabbit hole,” another user advised.
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