He consulted Reddit’s “Am I the A******” forum to sort out how to handle things. It all started when his fiancée’s mother began changing things in the wedding. He didn’t like it much but went along to be a good sport. But when the woman insisted his sister could no longer be the flower girl, it was the last straw.
“My fiancée and I already discussed and decided to have my 9-year-old sister be the flower girl,” he wrote. “She has mild cerebral palsy but she’s functioning and does good at school. She’s had people make comments about her and she’s very sensitive so she’d get upset because of these inconsiderate people’s comments. My sister is on cloud nine ever since she was told she will be the flower girl. She got her dress and so far she’s tried it on more than five times asking me when I’m going to have the wedding which is sweet.”
Then his fiancée’s mom insisted they replace his sister with the mother-in-law’s niece.
“To suggest that we picked the ‘wrong’ girl to be the flower girl was the straw that broke the camel’s back,” the user said. “She actually said she wasn’t sure how my sister will behave at the wedding and that we shouldn’t take a chance and just pick her niece instead. I told her no not gonna happen. Like I gave my parents and my sister my word. No way I’m going to make her upset and sad and let the niece take her place. My fiancée threw a fit and said I was overreacting. That my sister still gets to wear her dress but sit with the crowd instead of walking down the aisle. We have been arguing over this the whole week and I’m now supposed to call her and say okay but I refused and I’m standing my ground and wanting my sister to be the flower girl despite what others say because this offends me and my family.”
Reddit users saw the behavior as a red flag.
“A reasonable person would never ask for something so shallow and cruel and insane,” one user commented.
“Don’t marry a person that would treat your sister this way,” another said.
“You need to decide if you want to be with her before you get any further into this,” someone wrote.
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