A marriage counselor shared one of the top things women complain about in their relationships.
Marriage counselor Corrin Voeller used the differences between “active responsibility” and “passive responsibility” to highlight a common marriage problem. Her explanation prompted a discussion that lit up TikTok.
“Active responsibility would be you looking around the house for things that you could do and taking responsibility for the things that need to happen within the house,” she explained.
“Passive responsibility would be being available to help but waiting for someone to tell you what needs to be done.”
Voeller then asked to reflect on which role you play in your relationship.
“This is one of the top things I hear from women as a complaint saying that their husbands are waiting for them to tell them what needs to be done,” she said. “And they’re really waiting for a partner in life who is actively responsible for the house and for the children and not waiting for their wife to tell them what to do.”
People related to Voeller’s explanation in the comment section.
“Yup. After 26 years, I realized I was better off on my own. Now he’s having to figure out how to take care of himself. I don’t miss him,” someone said.
“Perfect way to explain this. It’s extremely frustrating. I already have 5 kids, I don’t need a 6th, I need a partner,” a TikToker replied.
“I have active responsibility of my family’s whole existence. And this is why I’m simply LOSING MY MIND,” another added.
“I ain’t your mother! I’m your partner. HELP!” a user commented.
“My husband and I are both active. We rarely argue about chores or childcare. I feel lucky!” a person wrote.
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