If there’s anything we’ve learned from watching Dolores Catania on The Real Housewives of New Jersey, it’s that she’s going to do what she wants and not care what other people think of that.
That’s why it was so surprising when, in a recent episode of the long-running Bravo hit’s eleventh season, Dolores blew up at her co-stars when their talk about her relationship with her boyfriend, David Principe, just became too much and crossed a line.
Dolores Catania shed light on that moment and the constant discussion about her love life in the latest episode of In The Know’s pop culture interview podcast, We Should Talk.
“I’m a very principled person, and now I’m gonna get angry,” she told In The Know of the moment. “I let you feel the way that you want, however I felt a lot of it was narrow-mindedness. I’ve been divorced for 22 years. A lot of the days and the things I’ve had to deal with, [my cast mates] don’t have one hour in them. Again, I respect their lives and their opinions and I love them all, but don’t push me.”
Listen to In The Know’s full episode of We Should Talk with Real Housewives of New Jersey star Dolores Catania below, and keep scrolling for highlights from the interview:
Dolores Catania on why she blew up on her cast mates for talking about her relationships: “I was getting tired, but I was trying to have patience with it, because one of the principles that I have and live by is, if someone is close enough to be your friend and you share things with them, they deserve to have an opinion. However, it kind of got to the point where I questioned: Was it their opinion or were they being judgmental towards me? When they start to talk about my business in front of people who aren’t in our inner circle, then I found it to be not a good friendship, because that’s not what I do, okay? There’s a lot of times where people ask me about the business of my cast mates, and it will never be spoken about. I consider these people to be my friends, and their business and [our] conversations stay between us. It was at a party, in mixed company, things were said with people that I don’t know that well, and now they’ve lost… see, you have privileges in my life that you could lose. I give them to you freely, but when you abuse it, now it’s gone. Then I get pissed off, and I get angry. I get more angry, because I trusted you. In my head, do I feel when they’re pounding their opinion on my life, do I feel like it’s coming from a bad place? I really don’t, and my patience has gone a lot further because of that.”
Dolores Catania on her conversation with boyfriend, David, about plastic surgery: “The conversation where I said that I could do what I want, and then he said this conversation is done and walked out… him walking out, I don’t appreciate, but it was better that he did. Where is that conversation going? That conversation is going nowhere good, because the next step is something explosive or a fight or something said that isn’t meant. As rude as it was that he did walk out — and I don’t tolerate that — him and I went out to lunch and talked about that after the scene as adults. He hasn’t done that since, but it did save something that probably would’ve gone the wrong way. […] Guess what? I’ve had a lot more plastic surgery since that conversation, and I’m going to have whatever I need to ever get. Unfortunately, David has to take care of me when I get home from whatever I didn’t tell him I was going to do, but I don’t need his permission to do it. As far as consulting him about it, I’m not engaged, so it’s a different level of relationship.”
Dolores Catania on her relationship with ex-husband, Frank, inspiring Teresa Giudice’s relationship with her ex-husband, Joe: “It wasn’t even like she called me for advice, but she had an example of what to do. I didn’t. When Frank and I, in the beginning of our divorce, were chastised and criticized and talked about and told we were making mistakes with our kids by being so close and sending mixed messages, we never listened. It felt right. I always lost sleep, saying, ‘Am I doing the right thing? We’re going on vacation together and we’re divorced.’ […] [Teresa] said she would [take a page from our book]. When they spoke about divorce, they both agreed that they’d like it to be like ours, like mine and Frank’s. It takes two people to do that. It’s not easy, but you do it.”
Dolores Catania on Jackie Goldschneider and Teresa Giudice continuously bringing up their fight: “In this group, I say that you have to get the poison out. And you’re either going to beat each other up, or you’re going to verbally get out all the aggression in that way. There’s two ways to do it: physically or verbally. They had to verbally get it out. For me, I’m more of a physical person. I just want to rip your limbs off or choke you out — I have to get it all out! I can speak for Teresa, too: She had to get it out of her system. Jackie had to get the anger out of her system. Until those emotions are all out, it had to be done. Can we move on? I always say, emotions do not travel in rational channels. There was going to be no rational conversation until the emotions were done.”
Watch In The Know’s full interview with Dolores Catania below, and watch The Real Housewives of New Jersey on Bravo, Wednesdays at 9 p.m. EST:
If you enjoyed this interview, check out In The Know’s recent interview with fellow Real Housewives of New Jersey star, Melissa Gorga, here.
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