A parent planning for their 1-year-old’s birthday party is wondering if they can provide guests with an Amazon wishlist. And parents are torn.
Posted to the Subreddit r/Parenting, the parent explains their position:
“Is it pretentious to link an Amazon wish list [on] the invite to the party? I’m planning on phrasing it as ‘suggested gifts if they need ideas.’
“I just really don’t want more goofy electronic toys. He has so many already that we haven’t even [taken] some of the ones we got for the baby shower/Christmas out of their packaging yet.
“Also, we have some stuff he really needs, so I would rather we get useful gifts instead of more toys.
“I am afraid of seeming entitled or like I am expecting people to get him these gifts if I link the wish list though.”
Some parents say it’s tacky, while others think it’s fine
Redditors were torn on whether or not mentioning gifts on the invitation was acceptable.
“I think it’s tacky to expect gifts from people. Gifts are nice but not a prerequisite to attending a party. That’s the vibe that we like to give off when having a party,” one user wrote.
“I personally think it’s tacky to put it on the invitation, but I know lots of people do anyways. I personally would keep it and just give it to people if they ask,” another user commented.
“IMO, it’s tacky. You’re hosting a party, you don’t get to dictate gifts – but you don’t have to keep them, either. If you don’t want a bunch of stuff you didn’t specifically pick out, you can ask people not to bring gifts or to donate to a charity you support,” one user replied.
“Tacky, entitled and rude. Same as asking for cash on a wedding invite. I would pass on an invitation with gift list attached,” commented another user.
“I think maybe if you put something like: ‘No gifts needed, but if you feel compelled and would like some ideas, here’s our wishlist of things we would appreciate.’ Then the link,” one user suggested.
“I think it’s 100% fine. I love when people give a list. It makes it so much easier to get a gift. I hate trying to figure out what to get,” another user answered.
“Is it technically against old fashioned etiquette rules which some people still hold to to feel self-righteous? Yes. Is it objectively rude and should still be consider bad manners? No. Times have changed,” one user replied.
“I think it’s great, I’d rather buy something they actually want and will be useful. Kids get too much plastic tat, I wish more people would do this,” said another user.
“I’d appreciate it. My kids are much older and I wouldn’t know where to start,” wrote one user.
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