Women on TikTok are sharing the most “blatantly sexist” encounters they have ever experienced in a new trend, and the result is harrowing.
The now-viral movement was started by TikToker @mandyalise, who shared an infuriating anecdote on Oct. 23 about a negative shopping experience with her fiancé.
“Ladies, what’s the most blatantly sexist thing a man has said to you?” she begins her TikTok, which has since been viewed over 719K times. “I’ll go first.”
The user continues to explain that one day, she was at a store looking for some “fancy new shirts” with her soon-to-be husband. When the pair headed to checkout, a male employee began ringing the two of them up while providing crucial care instructions for the garments.
“As he’s scanning them, he’s saying, ‘Make sure you take good care of these. Make sure you wash them in cold water. Make sure you hang them to try and make sure you iron them,'” @mandyalise recalled. “And who was that man looking at when he was explaining these washing instructions? Not my fiancé. He was looking at me.”
The TikTok sparked anger, with hundreds of women flocking to the comments to share their own experiences with sexism.
“My former boss at a café once told me to always use the calculator when someone pays in cash because I’m a woman so I can’t do maths,” one user said.
“My dad told me to do dishes and I said let the boys do it and he’s like ‘ur a girl and it’s ur job, don’t embarrass my boys by making them do dishes,'” shared another.
“My mom came home from work yesterday and said that her boss told her ‘you’re very reasonable….for a woman,'” added a third.
“I was in school for carpentry and my teacher said ‘are you sure this is right for you? Maybe just go into drawing instead,'” said another.
Another user, @joryuu, also struck a chord on the video-sharing platform after sharing her experience with sexism at a previous workplace.
In a stitch with @mandyalise‘s video, the TikToker explained that 15 years ago, she was working for an e-commerce website, which she “completely re-coded” to improve the company’s Search Engine Optimization (SEO) and bring in more viewers.
“After I went live, we experienced this massive increase in traffic and a subsequent increase in sales,” she recalled. “So, after a couple of months of growth, I took my work and all the results to the boss and said that I deserved a raise.”
Unfortunately, her logical request was apparently met with a head-turning response.
“He said, and I quote, ‘I agree, but if I give you a raise, you’ll make more than the boys and boys have to make more than girls,'” @joryuu said. “‘And you know, your coworker just had testicle surgery and this would just be another blow to his masculinity, but I’ll tell you what — if you can go back and get the boys to work harder, then I’ll be able to justify giving them more money, and then I can give you more money, too.'”
“When I told people about it, they said, ‘That’s really nice of your boss to consider your coworkers feelings like that,'” she ended.
Naturally, TikTokers were none too pleased with the interaction.
“Cap that’s a lawsuit,” one user wrote.
“How have you not sued?” said another.
“I’d simply delete all my code from the system and find a new job at that point,” commented a third.
In a follow-up video, @joryuu explained that she eventually did attempt to file a complaint with the U.S. Equal Employment Opportunity Commission (EEOC), but that she ended up missing the 90-day statute of limitations by just three weeks after multiple people tried to dissuade her or outright bully her out of taking action against her employer.
“If you know somebody who thinks they’re experiencing gender discrimination or sexual harassment or sexual assault — believe them, be there for them, support them, help them find the resources they need to get the recourses that they deserve before it’s too late,” she ended the clip.
After her TikTok series went viral, @joryuu claims the EEOC ended up contacting her to say it wouldn’t be pursuing her case — not because of the statute of limitations, but because “apparently, it’s something they don’t cover.”
However, another TikToker suggested she file a claim with the Department of Labor instead, which she did on Nov. 10. She and hew followers now anxiously await a response.
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