A woman on TikTok managed to film a clip of her Tinder date harassing her after she told him she wanted to go home. The TikToker then posted the clip online as a warning for fellow women — and it’s since gone viral.
The 25-year-old went on the date in November 2020, after talking to the guy on Tinder for about three weeks. The user, who goes by the name Madison on TikTok, said she started to feel uncomfortable and called an Uber, which was when the trouble started.
“He was supposed to take me to dinner, but changed the plan and decided to just go back to his house and watch a movie,” Madison told BuzzFeed.
Madison said the date kept pressuring her to drink alcohol, which was when she decided to call it a night. As she waited for her Uber, she started filming her date’s reaction.
“I’d like to know you better,” the guy can be heard saying at the beginning of the video. “This is how it works.”
“He’s said because we met on Tinder I’m required to have sex with him,” Madison captioned the clip.
In the video, Madison points out that the guy should be more upfront about what he wants from Tinder dates. In response, he starts to flail his arms.
“If you say that, you’re not going to get any Tinder matchups!” he yells at her.
“This is literally toxic masculinity,” Madison says to the guy. “Toxic.”
“I’m trying to help you,” he replies. “I’m trying to save you.”
In a follow-up video, Madison explained how she deescalated the situation safely left the apartment.
“I got out safe,” she says in her second clip. “I was sitting because I felt safer than trying to get up and leave while he was standing. But once he sat down, that’s when I decided to get up and leave.”
“I’m sure he considers himself a ‘nice guy,'” one person commented.
“He looks feral and thinks she owes him something,” another pointed out.
“That body language is two steps away from violence,” a third added.
According to a Pew Research Center study, young women are most likely to report having troublesome interactions while online dating.
Madison told BuzzFeed she felt proud and empowered that she could share this video with her viewers.
“Showing girls that it’s OK to say ‘No’ regardless of the time you put into a relationship, that was my main goal in sharing it,” she said.
If you or someone you know needs support after experiencing dating or sexual violence, contact the Rape, Abuse, and Incest National Network (RAINN) at 1-800-656-4673 or chat online with a trained counselor. You can also connect with a Crisis Text Line counselor at no charge by texting the word “HOME” to 741741.
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