Woman gives boss ‘ultimatum’ after conflict with coworker: ‘I’m so tired’

A teacher believes her pregnant coworker is taking advantage of her kindness. 

She consulted Reddit’s “Am I the A******” to help figure out what her next move should be. The woman is one of two co-teachers at a daycare. When her co-teacher became pregnant she agreed to pick up all the slack, but now the Reddit user is wondering if she’s being exploited a little. 

“In early August, my co-teacher announced she was pregnant,” the user explained. “I was super happy for her and tried to be as accommodating as possible. She couldn’t lift the heavier kids? No problem, I’ll take on the task. Doctors appointment? We can switch shifts and I’m fine with being alone with an aide. Not feeling well? Head home early, I’ve got this. The way my mind functions is that, if I’m super accommodating and kind, god forbid something happens to me, someone will be there for me.”

But the teacher started to feel like the accommodations were getting out of control. 

“It’s been about three months and half those days my co-teacher has called out sick without warning and has been coming in later and later,” the teacher wrote. “The days she is here, she refuses to do anything and is super irritable and uncommunicative. She’ll snap at me to do things while I’m doing something else for another child and she refuses to change diapers. Sometimes it feels like all she does is sit in a cozy corner with one kid.” 

The woman is now wondering if the only solution is an ultimatum. 

“I’ve tried to talk to her about it, but I always clam up because she starts talking about her pregnancy and how hard it is,” the user said. “I’m so tired. I love my job, but I feel like I’m the only one working in a classroom that has two teachers. I want to give my boss an ultimatum: either help me get her in line, or I leave.” 

Reddit users felt the teacher was justified. 

“Her lack of performance is hurting the kids,” one person commented

“Her actions are affecting the kids and this is not ok,” another wrote.

“She still has a job to do and she’s not doing it,” someone added.

If you liked this article, check out In The Know’s advice column, Group Chat, and click here to submit your own question.

More from In The Know:

Are Addison Rae and Bryce Hall dating? Your guide to TikTok’s most confusing couple

These noise-canceling headphones offer ‘better quality’ than Bose — and they’re $100 off

Keurig launched its first-ever designer collaboration with Jonathan Adler

Amazon shoppers, myself included, love this $10 foot scraper

Listen to the latest episode of our pop culture podcast, We Should Talk: