On April 13, the Redditor, writing under the username GlassAlarm, shared his story on the Am I the A***** (AITA) forum. In the post, he describes his fiancée’s request and asks whether it’d be overreacting to call the whole wedding off because of it.
‘Really might call this off’
The Redditor begins by explaining that he got engaged a few months ago. Everything was fine — but during some subsequent wedding planning, his fiancée revealed that “it is ‘family tradition’ to put a ball and chain on the groom at the reception as [a] ‘joke.”
“I am certainly not doing that, but she seems pretty firm on it. I feel like if you want to embarrass me like that, you can host your own reception without my family and friends there, and embarrass me all you want in front of your family and friends,” he said.
Because of his fiancé’s request, the Reddit user is considering calling off the wedding altogether. “I don’t feel like I’m being unreasonable,” he said, “but [my fiancé is] pretty f****** mad at me right now for my refusal.”
‘What a repulsive, tacky tradition’
In the comments, people have overwhelmingly come to the groom-to-be’s defense.
“What a repulsive, tacky tradition,” one comment with 18,000 upvotes reads.
“What a disgusting and foul tradition, and also what a silly mindset this woman has. Why the f*** would you want to force your partner to do something they find unpleasant on their own wedding day?” another person responded. “I feel like that’s a bigger problem for me. The tradition is horrendous, but this is even worse.”
“Public humiliation isn’t acceptable,” a third person added. “Not all traditions are worth continuing.”
In response to all the support, the Redditor posted a follow-up, noting that the fate of his relationship ultimately lies in his fiancée’s hands.
“It’s up to how firm she is on the ‘joke’ and if they’ll just let it go.”
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